Did you miss me? I just looked and saw that I haven’t posted anything since the end of February! Wow! The truth is, I’ve been busy. I actually have a career now! And it is amazing! I’m loving every minute. Although, trying to find balance between all of the hats that I have to wear is much more difficult than I thought. Does anyone else struggle with trying to find balance? It’s a difficult thing. And I’m learning as I go. How do you find balance in your life? I’ve learned a few things recently and I’d like to share them with you.
As a working mom, I am constantly on the go. Couple that with having a husband that travels at least 2 days out of the week, and I’m a single working mom. So there isn’t much time for taking care of lots of different things, let alone myself. Since I went back to work I don’t cook as much as I used to. And forget trying any new recipes! I practically live in my car these days – meeting with clients, going to the office, taking the kids to sports, running errands, etc. For a self proclaimed “home body”, this has been difficult.
One of the biggest difference makers for me has been diet and exercise. You are probably thinking “How on Earth can I find time to exercise and eat right if I’m a working mom?” Well, that’s been the foundation to finding energy for me. Here’s the truth…. over the last 2 1/2 years, I gained 15 lbs. My clothes didn’t fit. I didn’t feel good about myself. And I had no energy. So back in February, I started on Weight Watchers. I just wanted my clothes to fit again! But what I learned was far more valuable than that. I learned that I can be satisfied by eating healthy. I learned that what I eat seriously affects my body. And I learned that exercise for me is a nice stress reliever. ( I am a Pilates and Barre lover!) Because of all of that, I feel better about myself. I’ve lost 10 lbs. as of right now. My clothes are fitting again and I feel good.
My children are tweens. And that alone is exhausting! The mood swings….. The eye rolls…… The Xbox…… The social media…… Ugh! But in order to find balance I have done this, shut down. When it’s time for me to be with my kids, I don’t work. There is a strict “no device” policy at the dinner table. I am constantly afraid that if I don’t pay attention to what they are doing, I will miss something. Something BIG! So I try to stay on top of it. And remember that I am human. I will mess up. They are human too. And all of the thoughts and feelings that are running through their systems are new to them. So patience is a must. I shut down my devices and listen. And I relax with them.
Letting certain things go has truly been the most difficult thing for me to learn since I’ve gone back to work. When I was a full time blogger, part time designer, I worked from home. So I could stay on top of the cleaning. Dinner was ready at 6 pm every day and it was home cooked. The dogs always got a nice, long walk every day. I cleaned up after my kids so they didn’t worry about it. Now, it’s a whole different ball game. There could be dishes left in the sink all day. I don’t know the last time my kitchen island was cleared off. The dining room table just has stuff on it and I’m not sure where it all goes, nor do I have time to put it anywhere. I DO NOT function well in clutter. But that is what my house is right now…. cluttered. And I have to let it go. The dogs only get a short walk…. let it go. The plant in the corner died from not being watered….. let it go. There are dishes in the sink….. let it go. I have channeled my inner Elsa…..
Given that I am doing so much running around lately, I am prone to forget things. Most things. So I definitely need to write things down. I have lists for my lists. But it has helped me so much! My Day Designer goes with me everywhere. Seriously! I like having a paper planner. But I also put things into my phone. The Day Designer has a to do list and daily schedule for each day and then a monthly planner page as well. It’s awesome! And I definitely credit it with helping me keep my sanity.
But here’s the biggest working mom epiphany that I’ve had….. NEVER FORGET WHO YOU ARE! Isn’t it funny that going BACK to work made me realize that?! I do love to cook and I hate clutter. So I clean up when I can and cook when I can. I listen to more music that I enjoy because I’m in the car so much and I’m not ashamed to belt out my favorite 80’s tune! I get to dress for me every day instead of hanging out in leggings. (I forgot how much I like wearing makeup and dressing for work!) My kids are learning how to help out around the house (it’s about time!) and I no longer waste any time. There’s no procrastinating any more. And I’m truly doing my dream job. With a little blogging on the side. It feels so good to be back!